These are some that are red flags for me. Will the man abuse? Maybe. Maybe not. I don’t know but these aspects seem to be in the charts of men who have.
1. Moon sq Mars
This man separates his emotions from his passions. This is not good because he can build up his emotions and explode. This man separates his feminine side from his masculine one. This is the aspect for the Madonna/Whore complex. He may see women in a black and white way, as this complex suggests. He may not like his feminine side or woman.
2. Algol conj the ASC
This aspect gets bad press because it is a bad aspect. It is seen in the charts of many serial killers. It is the impetus to do evil. Does one have to do evil? No. However , people with Algol conjunct the ASC probably have more urges than the average bear.
3. Nessus, the asteroid of the abuser, conjunct the ASC, Sun, Moon, Mars, Venus or North Node.
Any of these would make me pull back and reevaluate the person. Is this fair? I suppose not but real life is real life.
4. Pluto conjunct the ASC or in the 1st house.
This is not an aspect for abuse but one for power. The power could be that of a great leader. However, if abuse aspects are with it, I would watch out.
5. A Cardinal ASC.
The Cardinal ASC is known to be a stronger person. This does not show abuse but strength. If it is combined with aspects for abuse, I would watch out.
6. Unaspected Pluto.
This person is fated to learn about power. He must do it on his own, as is the case for all Unaspected Planets. Has be become a Saint or a Sinner? That remains to be seen but I would watch out.
7. Unaspected Jupiter
This placement makes for a person who must decide the extent of his own conscience. This is a very important matter. Will he form a strong conscience or choose to not have one, at all. I would watch out.
8. A Full 5th House
This would be an aspect for a player. If you marry him and he still plays, that is abuse. I would watch a full 5th House.
9. Pluto conjunct Saturn
This is known as a cruelty aspect.
10. Mars square Pluto
This can be a violent temper.